Speaking & Consulting ยท Dr. Wendy Schofer, MD ยท Family in Focus®
Speaking & Consulting

Dr. Wendy Schofer, MD

How we cope with stress determines our relationships with food and body.

Dual-board certified pediatrician and lifestyle physician. Founder of Family in Focus®. Speaking with the adults who care for children about trauma-informed habit change, eating disorder prevention as a foundation, and what stress is quietly teaching the kids who are watching.

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The Work

Speaking with the adults who care for children

I speak with the adults who care for children, including parents, educators, healthcare colleagues, and leaders, about how stress is shaping our relationships with food and body, and what that quietly teaches the kids who are watching.

Eating disorder prevention isn’t a new fear-based diagnostic strategy. It’s the outcome of building stronger relationships with food, body, and each other. Our coping strategies are evidenced in our behaviors. Connection mitigates the trauma of daily stress. This is trauma-informed habit change.

In 15-minute appointments, I kept hearing parents say, “I’m doing everything right and it’s still not working.” I was hearing it from myself, too. The standard nutrition-and-lifestyle script wasn’t failing because parents weren’t trying. It was failing because it skipped over the part that matters most: how stress is shaping our eating, and how the way we cope is the curriculum we’re handing our kids.

What Makes This Different

Trauma-informed. Relevant to all ages.

Trauma-informed habit change

Coping strategies are not personal failings. They are learned responses to stress. By making the patterns visible and shifting the relationships around us, change happens without battles, without restriction, and without making any one person the problem to fix.

Relevant to all ages

The same framework speaks to the eight-year-old picking around her plate, the teenager fixated on the scale, the parent reaching for sugar at 9 p.m., and the executive whose lunch comes out of a vending machine. The patterns are the same. The path through them is the same.

The framework I use is Pause, Patterns, Pivot. Stop the reactive cycle. Get curious about what’s actually happening. Then choose what to keep doing, and what to do differently. It works in a session with one parent, in a keynote room of 500, and in a multi-session consult with a clinical team.

Who I Speak To

Adults who care for children, including themselves.

Parents & families

PTAs, parent groups, community organizations, and retreats. The conversations parents wish their pediatrician had time for.

Schools & educators

Independent schools, public districts, school nurses, counselors, and leadership teams. Prevention, in practice.

Healthcare professionals

Pediatrics, family medicine, nursing, residents, integrative practices. CME-eligible format available.

Conferences & corporate wellness

Medical conferences, women’s health events, leadership summits, and workplace wellness programs.

Signature Talks

Five talks. One thesis.

Primary Keynote ยท Adaptable across all audiences

1. Beyond Burnout: Healing modern day stress to change family’s eating habits without harm

Burnout, stress, and food coping aren’t a personal failing. They’re a pattern. When adults don’t see the pattern in ourselves, we hand it down. This keynote names the connection between adult overwhelm and the eating habits we model, walks the audience through Pause, Patterns, Pivot, and gives them a starting point that doesn’t require burning their lives down to use.

  • A clear framing for why willpower-based approaches keep failing
  • The Pause, Patterns, Pivot framework, applied to one’s own coping first
  • Three small experiments to try before the next meal
  • Permission to stop performing health and start practicing it
  • A different relationship with the word “prevention”

2. The Pattern Shift at Home: Eating disorder prevention without the battles

Parents and families

Most parents hear “prevention” and think it means watching their child for warning signs. It doesn’t. It means watching ourselves: the stress patterns, the food talk at the table, the body comments we don’t mean to make. A practical playbook for changing what’s happening at home without making mealtimes a battleground.

3. What Kids Inherit: Adults, food, and the stories we don’t mean to tell

Schools, educators, community organizations

Kids learn what eating means from the adults around them: in cafeterias, in PE, from comments overheard in the staff room. This talk maps where school cultures help, where they harm, and what an eating-disorder-aware school community looks like in practice.

4. Curious by Design: Weight-inclusive pediatric and family care

Healthcare professionals ยท CME-eligible format available

For colleagues working inside the 15-minute visit. Where conventional weight, nutrition, and lifestyle guidance falls short; what to ask instead; and how to bring an eating-disorder-aware lens into a real clinical day. Includes case discussion, language scripts, and referral pathways.

5. Nourishing the Body & Soul: Food, mood, and what your team is actually coping with

Corporate wellness, leadership groups, team well-being programs

What we eat shapes how we feel, think, and cope, especially under workplace pressure. This session walks teams through the gut-brain connection, key nutrients for mood, and how chronic stress reshapes our eating. The takeaway isn’t a meal plan. It’s a working understanding of how to use food as one of several supports for mental well-being.

What Hosts Say

Recent engagements.

“Wendy presented at our school nurse conference as a keynote speaker. Wendy is energetic, engaging and funny. She leaves you with specific strategies to improve daily life. I was able to apply what I learned in her talk right away.”
Kim BrownSchool Nurse Conference Keynote
“The first time I met Wendy was at a school nurse conference. She was Amazing! Wendy is very knowledgeable, informative, caring, compassionate, funny, motivating and serious. She provides strategies to cope, focus, and helps you learn and work through different issues. I highly recommend her sessions.”
Penny HutchinsSchool Nurse Conference
“Dr. Schofer provided an excellent presentation on nutrition and mental health services for foster parents. The employees and foster parents appreciated the topics discussed on self care and stress management. We definitely will be seeking her expertise for other events and community resources.”
V. ButtsJames Barry Robinson Institute
“I had Wendy Schofer share in my Organized Life Academy group about ‘organizing fun’ and she was incredible. So natural and vulnerable. She taught us things I wasn’t expecting. I walked away with new ideas that not only helped me think about fun differently, but also improved a relationship! I’d highly recommend her as a guest and expert speaker.”
Tracy HothOrganized Life Academy
“Dr. Schofer is the most amazing medical doctor with whom I’ve partnered in education! She trained our staff with understanding pediatric disorders to help us be more empathetic to our students. Dr. Schofer is a champion for ALL children!”
Kambar KhoshabaEducator Partnership
“You are creating the change you want your family to live. It starts with you.”
Dr. Wendy SchoferFounder, Family in Focus®

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