Stephanie, Mom of 2
"Moms don't need anything more to stress about. This can take a bunch of stuff off their plate!!!
(I've) changed thoughts and perspective so I can lead by example."
Ashley, Mom of 2
"My kids are so different. My son is underweight and I felt so guilty that I fed my daughter every time she cried as a baby, and now she's overweight. They used to whine that they were hungry while I was cooking and it was such chaos.
Now, I have some peace while I am cooking and I feel like I am winning because they are eating their veggie or fruit before the meal even starts."
Client's 9 year-old Son
"I love Dr Wendy.
She's making you a better mom."
What Doesn't Work
❌ Mandatory exercise
❌ Threats about weight
❌ Diet, Restriction, Calorie counting
❌ Demonizing processed and fast food
❌ "Weight Management"
❌ Stressing out over our kids' weight
❌ Focusing on the scale
❌ Letting the scale tell if progress is being made towards lifelong health
It all leads to kids being taught to diet, that their bodies are wrong... and they reject having their food & bodies controlled (hello, food fights & sneaking food!)
Learn What Works
✅ Help your child learn to listen to their body
✅ Build healthy relationships with food and body
✅ Create a home for healthy body image to grow
✅ Understand how targeting weight is not a helpful way to create healthy habits
✅ Use internal motivation to drive long-term change
✅ Learn the most helpful habits of thoughts, feelings and actions that lead to lifelong healthy weight
✅ Create whole-family healthy habits
✅ Shift the focus from what you're trying to avoid to what you actually want to achieve
✅ Healthy Habits, from the inside, out: What we can share with the whole family, for life
Most weight management programs for kids teach them to cut out foods and force exercise that the kids hate. They focus on measurements to determine if there is progress or success.
Success (and health!) is not based on achieving a certain weight or size.
That, my friend, is diet mentality and leads to an unhealthy relationship with food and body.
Instead, the Family in Focus approach uses the professional guidance of a physician-coach who has worked with thousands of parents to build healthy relationships with food and body for the whole family.
Lindsey, Mom of 3
"THANK YOU! For so long now I have felt like I had to control and fix everything and if it wasn't working I must be failing... what a heavy feeling. I entered this course to help essentially one child who struggles with weight but I've learned the weight struggle was mine. Her weight doesn't hold her back.... it was me. I was thinking by fixing this I could protect her from being made fun of or help her to look a certain way.... these were never her insecurities.... they were mine. It doesn't seem so overwhelming and hard now.
In fact, in such a short time I've gained so much from your course beyond food and weight. It makes me a better person, Mom, and wife all around."
Anonymous, Mom of 2
“I am working through a resurgence of disordered eating with [my daughter], that showed up originally last year and returned after [her father] and I separated.
I am approaching the conversations from the perspective I learned from you in the beginning stages of your journey with this program, and they have made ALL of the difference in the world to help me recognize behaviors and communicate with (my daughter) about the beliefs leading to them.
It is powerful, powerful work you are doing. Thank you!”
No one else is sharing this effective approach to family weight health.
The weight-loss industry is hell-bent on having some shredded person sell you a pill or a quick-fix for our weight worries.
That is not the answer to help our children. It's not sustainable and it's flat-out dangerous, and it makes everyone hate the process.
But just imagine... when you have stopped second-guessing if you should have let them have seconds, when you have ended the food fights, and no longer worry about your child's relationship with food. Imagine when you bring the family together in a healthy way that you actually enjoy.
And you don't have to choose which family member to focus upon. You learn the tools and everyone benefits.
What's different with Family in Focus?
The traditional weight-focused approach (ahem, I see you "Weight Management" Clinics) looks at the scale as the definition of success.
Family in Focus takes a holistic approach, seeing the whole person and the whole family.
- success is defined as progress, as growth, as learning, and connection.
- in celebrating what exists now and what is possible.
- in creating a community of likeminded parents, who focus on health and growth, not numbers on the scale.
- your child is not broken. Every child and every family is whole.
- no diagnosis determines your health.
- in the power of parents to create an environment for children to thrive at every size and weight.
- that healthy relationships with food and body are created in the home, not prescribed in the medical office.
- there is no role for before and after pictures. There is no role for body shaming, including not shaming our current bodies.
- relationships are the key to health.
We are actively collecting the evidence for this approach to whole family health
Novel, ground-breaking research in collaboration with colleagues at Eastern Virginia Medical School and Old Dominion UniversityLearn more
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